It is commonly believed that through dreams, our subconscious mind processes everything we experience in our waking state. Mixed into surreal adventures that often lack a sense of logic, our dreams can vary between euphoric astral adventures in which we are able to levitate or travel through time, and the darkest of nightmares that include such horrific things, we hardly understand upon awakening how we could even come up with that. As Freud called it “the royal road to the unconscious,” dreams about death and dying can suggest a phase of transition or transformation. But when death actually takes place in our reality, we tend to dream about this specific death a lot. Let me share my death dreams with you, and explore how the process of grief continues on while we are sound asleep.
Browsing category Personal Posts
During the past year that I’ve been working on this blog, a lot of people have asked me – aside from the general inquisitions about my seemingly morbid interest in anything dead and dying: “Claudia, what is this death awareness thing exactly? What does it mean?!” As the concept of death awareness is popping up out of obscurity a lot recently, let me explain it to you.
As my mother entered the final phase of her life due to terminal cancer, these past few months I was faced with the challenge of putting A Course in Dying into practice. What was most remarkable to me during this process is how some of my experiences were not at all like how I had imagined them to be. In the light of truth and the ultimacy of reality, I feel it is important to share this honest account with you. To give you an insight into the various scenarios of how we cope with death and loss.
Throughout human history, we have invented rituals to remember and reconnect with the dead. Studying the social evolution of these rituals can help to make sense of what we are doing today. But not all our rituals can be so easily explained. In this piece I want to reflect on the ways we attempt to make sense of bereavement: meaning-making through death rituals.
At some point in everyone’s life, there comes a time we are faced with the reality of death. With this notion of an inevitable end to life in general, we simultaneously learn about our own mortality. It’s a personal matter if someone is prone to giving this much thought, or to avoid it at all costs. I personally have been thinking about death all my life. Sparked by curiosity rather than morbidity, the subject has always intrigued me. And bit by bit, throughout the years, as time left clues in the shape of experiences along the way, I started piecing together what it means to me. I started seeing how death gives meaning to life.
OBE is short for ‘Out-of-Body Experience’. The term was coined by parapsychologist George N. M. Tyrell in 1943. It is a phenomena that involves a feeling of being outside one’s physical body. According to Wikipedia, one in ten people experience an OBE at least once in their life. In my previous post I mentioned I’ve had several OBEs myself. Most of these occurred during my early 20’s, when I lived out in the countryside of the Netherlands, in an old house that had quite a history.
Let me dedicate my first personal post to the very reason why I started this website:
The urge to break the taboos that surround death.
My mind has always been filled with a deep sense that there is more to life than what we might initially perceive, and the idea that death, is perhaps, a marvelous, beautiful phenomenon.